Relationships

Practices to help strengthen communication skills and find a healthy equilibrium between intimacy and autonomy.

Countering 'cringe syndrome' – Mindful Embarrassment

Countering 'cringe syndrome' – Mindful Embarrassment

We make mistakes.  We say stupid things, get mad, angry.  In spite of our best intentions, we do things to hurt others – and ourselves.  I personally don’t have to look back past last week to think of something I said that can cause me to cringe right here as…

Countering ‘cringe syndrome’ – Mindful Embarrassment

Countering ‘cringe syndrome’ – Mindful Embarrassment

We make mistakes.  We say stupid things, get mad, angry.  In spite of our best intentions, we do things to hurt others – and ourselves.  I personally don’t have to look back past last week to think of something I said that can cause me to cringe right here as…

Gratitude Challenge – Day Thirty-five: Difficult conversations

Gratitude Challenge – Day Thirty-five: Difficult conversations

We often avoid important conversations for fear of conflict, drama, hurt feelings.  But if we can apply mindfulness, and view the situation with compassion for all parties concerned, difficult conversations can be an opportunity for growth, connection, reconciliation. Today I am grateful for the opportunity presented in difficult conversations.  By…

Gratitude Challenge – Day Fifteen:  Find a gratitude buddy

Gratitude Challenge – Day Fifteen: Find a gratitude buddy

Today I am grateful for all the buddies I’ve had over the years – running partners, study buddies, yoga pals.  If you are having trouble finding gratitude every day, try pairing up with a gratitude buddy.  Promise each other to make contact once a day and share what you are…

Using Anger Mindfully

Using Anger Mindfully

by Beth S. Patterson, MA, LPC Many of us, especially those on the spiritual path, tend to look at anger as an entirely negative emotion.  However, anger used mindfully can be extremely positive, powerful and ultimately healing.  Anger is simply energy, and we always have a choice as to what…

Overwhelm and Isolation – How mindful hub Can Help

Overwhelm and Isolation – How mindful hub Can Help

use the search button at the top right-hand corner to search for articles and worksheets that will ease overwhelm and isolation In my therapy practice I can pretty easily classify my clients’ struggles into two categories.  They are either struggling with overwhelm or isolation, and oftentimes both.  Overwhelm comes in…

Name it to Tame It

Name it to Tame It

I’m angry.   I’m nervous.  I’m sad.  If you’ve ever admitted  to yourself or another that you were overcome by one of these troubling emotions, and then felt some relief from the emotion,  you were practicing mindfulness!  A study published in the Journal of Biobehavioral Medicine reports thats individuals who…

The Science Behind Compassion – Marvelous Mirror Neurons

Did you know that humans (and a few other select mammals) are equipped with something called mirror neurons?  Mirror neurons are what allow us to have empathy – the ability to feel what others are feeling. If you don’t believe in mirror neurons watch this clip of Sargent Bill Hawes…

Rejection – ouch!

Rejection – ouch!

Rejection.  In one form or other we’ve all felt it’s sting.  And we use words like “pain” and “hurt” to describe the feeling of being socially spurned for good reason.  A study conducted at the University of Michigan tells us that social rejection and physical pain activate the same areas…

How to Be Disappointed

How to Be Disappointed

“I’m disappointed….. I’m disappointed in you.”  Most of the time the word ‘disappointed’ shows up in a sentence it’s a cover up for thoughts like “I’m really, really, ticked off”, or “I feel deeply sad at the outcome of this situation.”  Our reaction to disappointment can range from mild annoyance…

Mindful Enemies

Mindful Enemies

“If we could read the secret history of our enemies, we should find in each man’s life sorrow and suffering enough to disarm all hostility.”– Henry Wadsworth Longfellow – This is one of my favorite quotes and one that speaks to mindfulness quite eloquently. Do you have an enemy? We…