Relationships

Practices to help strengthen communication skills and find a healthy equilibrium between intimacy and autonomy.

Using Every Day Situations to Boost Mindfulness.

Using Every Day Situations to Boost Mindfulness.

Little things can be our Best Mindfulness Teachers By contributing writer, Karen Fabian, Certified Baptiste Yoga teacher, founder,  barebonesyoga.com. I recently had an uncomfortable interaction with someone at a local doctor’s office. Running late due to traffic, I arrived five minutes after my scheduled appointment time. Upon arriving, the receptionist…

Aligning Thought, Word, and Deed

Aligning Thought, Word, and Deed

  Gandhi is oft-quoted as saying “happiness is when what you think, say, and  do are in harmony.” If this is true, why do we stray from our values in thought, word, and deed? In my therapy practice, I often ask clients to take an inventory of values. I use…

Black Friday Alternatives:  Emotional prep for the holidays

Black Friday Alternatives: Emotional prep for the holidays

The Ghost of Christmas Past.   If you are already dreading this upcoming holiday season, maybe it is because you are mistaking it for last year – and last year wasn’t that much fun for you.  I sometimes wonder what would happen if holiday advertisements promoted getting ready for the season…

Mindfulness Can Make You Popular:  How to Get Your Teen to Meditate

Mindfulness Can Make You Popular: How to Get Your Teen to Meditate

Mindfulness can be a tough sell to teenagers – I once asked a teen-age client if she would be interested in borrowing a CD with a guided body-scan and other various mindfulness meditation instructions.  She told me if I gave her the CD she would smash it into a million…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 35 ~ Letting go of drama

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 35 ~ Letting go of drama

We humans will go to great lengths to stay out of the present moment. The present moment terrifies us. We can be very ingenious with the variety of drama we create and cling to in order to stay away from the here-and-now. Today’s letting go exercise:  What kind of drama do you create…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 26 ~ Be free from envy

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 26 ~ Be free from envy

Envy is a really tough emotion – a cross between a yearning for the good fortune bestowed on another and hostility toward the individual for having the good fortune.  Even if the lucky one is a good friend, irrational though it is, envy sometimes runs the show. “It’s not fair…. why me…. why not…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 24 ~ Let go of fearing pain

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 24 ~ Let go of fearing pain

There are four heart-opening and heart-healing mindsets that Buddhists call the four immeasurables:  Equanimity, Loving-kindness, Compassion, and sympathetic Joy.  These four mindsets are referred to as “immeasurable” because of their limitless ability to end suffering.  Each immeasurable counteracts a mindset that keeps us stuck and prevents us from letting go…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

Last year I worked with a young man who just ended a three-year relationship. I watched as he went through the process of desperately holding on, blaming himself, lashing out, and feeling completely shattered and rejected.  As a therapist I am able to stay detached from the suffering and let compassion…