Relationships

Practices to help strengthen communication skills and find a healthy equilibrium between intimacy and autonomy.

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

Last year I worked with a young man who just ended a three-year relationship. I watched as he went through the process of desperately holding on, blaming himself, lashing out, and feeling completely shattered and rejected.  As a therapist I am able to stay detached from the suffering and let compassion…

A Six-Step Guide to Letting Go

A Six-Step Guide to Letting Go

Most people would agree that letting go of old habits, whether these habits are people, places, or things, is often necessary for living a happy life.  So why do we have such trouble letting go? What does it mean to let go?  It could mean letting go of a disappointment from the past,…

Flirting With Your Frontal Lobes

Flirting With Your Frontal Lobes

My husband used to say that flirting was fun because it made people feel good, and the science behind flirting backs up his belief.  However I have worked with many teens, young adults, and yes, full-grown adults who have been the “victims” of flirting in that they feel misled or toyed with…

Magic Questions that Decrease Anxiety

Magic Questions that Decrease Anxiety

Most of us living in the modern world  have many choices from day to day, hour to hour as to where we will focus our attention.  Shall I grab the lap-top and work on my upcoming presentation? Shall I join my family in watching a movie or playing a game? …

Quality over Quantity  – Stop bragging about being over-booked

Quality over Quantity – Stop bragging about being over-booked

In our culture it’s a point of pride to be over scheduled, stressed, and frazzled.  Anything else qualifies us as lazy, unmotivated, and (gasp!) average.  True story:  I overheard the following conversation in a restaurant in Harvard Square last fall.  I assume  it was parents’ weekend at Harvard, for as…