Young Adults

This year mindful hub will have a special focus on the unique needs of millennial young adults. Check back often to view excerpts from Donna Torney’s forthcoming book, Center Points for Young Adults: Building identity, intimacy, and youthful wisdom through contemplative practices.

Mediocrity 101

Mediocrity 101

A friend of mine jokes that we could all use a course in mediocrity – mediocrity 101, if you will, where we allow ourselves, even enjoy, the process of dabbling in something, doing it half-way. Mediocre –  What thoughts come up for you when you hear the word?  For most of…

Black Friday Alternatives:  Emotional prep for the holidays

Black Friday Alternatives: Emotional prep for the holidays

The Ghost of Christmas Past.   If you are already dreading this upcoming holiday season, maybe it is because you are mistaking it for last year – and last year wasn’t that much fun for you.  I sometimes wonder what would happen if holiday advertisements promoted getting ready for the season…

Anxiety is a Big Fat Liar – Challenging Anxious Thoughts

Anxiety is a Big Fat Liar – Challenging Anxious Thoughts

Anxiety is a dirty rotten Liar.  Well, most of the time.  If you’re about to rob a bank, or yell at your boss, and you’re feeling anxious, that’s probably good common sense.  But if you are feeling worried about some upcoming event, or bothered by something that happened yesterday, your…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 39 ~ Make peace with your true nature

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 39 ~ Make peace with your true nature

Our deeper nature usually prevails, and what a relief when it does. Remember the big hair of the 1980s?  It was a time when young men and women alike where subjecting themselves to a head full of chemicals followed by gobs of sticky, slimy, hair gel.   Madonna or Michael,…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 38 ~ Be where you’re standing

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 38 ~ Be where you’re standing

Direct experience practice has a cumulative effect that can help us have a better handle on our emotions, and even build stronger bonds with loved ones and our community. Many moments of direct experience add up to a life well lived. READ THIS PARAGRAPH, THEN LOOK AWAY FROM YOUR COMPUTER SCREEN:…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 36 ~ Break free of the trance

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 36 ~ Break free of the trance

What is your favorite kind of trance???  Yesterday we talked about getting sucked into drama as a way of avoiding the reality of our own present moment.  What else puts you in a trance?  With all of the distractions available how can we even tell the difference between zoning out,…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 28 – Just for now, want nothing

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 28 – Just for now, want nothing

Just for now – want nothing Don’t wish to be someplace else Be where you are Don’t wish for more energy, or less Watch your breath rise and fall and watch your energy settle to where it needs to be Stop planning and remembering let thought disperse Like autumn leaves…

40 Days of Letting Go:   Day 17 ~ Let go of technology

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 17 ~ Let go of technology

Want to see something really cool in 3D?  Take a look at real life!  Look mindfully today at a tree, a train, or a teapot.  Notice the depth and gradation of color – wow…. no special glasses required! Spending too much time on screens, whether it’s your lap-top or a…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 16 ~ Let go of an old identity

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 16 ~ Let go of an old identity

This is not about a beauty make-over, But rather an inside make-over that might be long overdue.  It might be time to let  go of labels that you don’t want anymore, and maybe never even asked for.  How do you identify yourself? You might say “I’m the mother of two……

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 15 ~ Let go of your edge

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 15 ~ Let go of your edge

I once attended a conference on mindfulness that included health care experts, corporate executives, and politicians.  I learned that executives at Google were hesitant to join a company-sponsored mindfulness program because they were afraid to lose their “edge.”  What exactly does this mean?  Professionally speaking, or in other domains of life, what…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

Last year I worked with a young man who just ended a three-year relationship. I watched as he went through the process of desperately holding on, blaming himself, lashing out, and feeling completely shattered and rejected.  As a therapist I am able to stay detached from the suffering and let compassion…