Young Adults

This year mindful hub will have a special focus on the unique needs of millennial young adults. Check back often to view excerpts from Donna Torney’s forthcoming book, Center Points for Young Adults: Building identity, intimacy, and youthful wisdom through contemplative practices.

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 3 ~ Let go of shame

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 3 ~ Let go of shame

What do you feel when you hear the word shame?  How about guilt?  Shame is usually a toxic emotion that keeps us frozen in time.  Guilt on the other hand, can be instructive, and can spur us on to be our best selves.  Your mindfulness practice can help you develop your best, loving,…

40 Days of Letting go: day 2 ~ Want what you have

40 Days of Letting go: day 2 ~ Want what you have

Want what you have?!  What a thing to ask you to do at the start of the school year!  How will you function without the latest iPhone, backpack, fall fashions, new car to cart the family around? I once read a quote from the founder of a legendary department store…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day One ~ Let go of perfection

40 Days of Letting Go: Day One ~ Let go of perfection

The pursuit of perfection is insidious in our culture.  I could write volumes on its negative effect on our lives.  But in keeping  with the spirit of the letting go project, I want to offer you a short meditation on letting go of perfection. In my therapy practice, letting go…

Flirting With Your Frontal Lobes

Flirting With Your Frontal Lobes

My husband used to say that flirting was fun because it made people feel good, and the science behind flirting backs up his belief.  However I have worked with many teens, young adults, and yes, full-grown adults who have been the “victims” of flirting in that they feel misled or toyed with…

Peace is in the Present Moment

Peace is in the Present Moment

One way to conceptualize mindfulness and the benefit of a present moment focus is to notice the state of mind that is conjured up by dwelling in the past, or worrying about the future.  We can even put mood states on a time continuum where depression is induced by thinking…

Quality over Quantity  – Stop bragging about being over-booked

Quality over Quantity – Stop bragging about being over-booked

In our culture it’s a point of pride to be over scheduled, stressed, and frazzled.  Anything else qualifies us as lazy, unmotivated, and (gasp!) average.  True story:  I overheard the following conversation in a restaurant in Harvard Square last fall.  I assume  it was parents’ weekend at Harvard, for as…