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40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 33 ~ Let it go or let it be?

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 33 ~ Let it go or let it be?

Some life events cause a distinct chasm –  on one side stands “before,”  on the other side “after.”  The deeper the chasm, the more desperately we my try to get back to “before.”  Chronic illness, a break-up, addiction, the death of a loved one.  When we can’t accept a situation…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 31 ~ Stop putting self-care on the back burner

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 31 ~ Stop putting self-care on the back burner

Compassion fatigue, also known as secondary trauma, burn-out, vicarious trauma, or empathetic strain is an occupational hazard for therapists, health-care professionals, parents and other care-givers.  It’s a catch-22 that only deeply caring people are susceptible to compassion fatigue, and only deeply caring people become care-givers.  Compassion fatigue is a physical, emotional or…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 28 – Just for now, want nothing

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 28 – Just for now, want nothing

Just for now – want nothing Don’t wish to be someplace else Be where you are Don’t wish for more energy, or less Watch your breath rise and fall and watch your energy settle to where it needs to be Stop planning and remembering let thought disperse Like autumn leaves…

40 Days of Letting Go:   Day 17 ~ Let go of technology

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 17 ~ Let go of technology

Want to see something really cool in 3D?  Take a look at real life!  Look mindfully today at a tree, a train, or a teapot.  Notice the depth and gradation of color – wow…. no special glasses required! Spending too much time on screens, whether it’s your lap-top or a…

40 Days of Letting Go:  Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 13 ~ Let go of fixing, Listening is loving

Last year I worked with a young man who just ended a three-year relationship. I watched as he went through the process of desperately holding on, blaming himself, lashing out, and feeling completely shattered and rejected.  As a therapist I am able to stay detached from the suffering and let compassion…

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 7 ~  Let go of resentment

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 7 ~ Let go of resentment

I’ve heard it said that resentment is like giving yourself poison, expecting to kill your enemy.  I like this analogy, as it really does sum up the effect of resentment on your mind, your nervous system and even your loved ones who may be in the line of fire of…

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 4 ~ Be silly, not serious

40 Days of Letting Go: Day 4 ~ Be silly, not serious

Uninhibited, care-free, silly ….. When was the last time you let yourself feel one of these sensations?  Think toddler’s dancing, teenagers skateboarding, young adults running in the rain, a karaoke performance at a wedding reception that has you laughing so hard you start crying…. In honor of Labor Day Weekend, a…

40 Days of Letting go: day 2 ~ Want what you have

40 Days of Letting go: day 2 ~ Want what you have

Want what you have?!  What a thing to ask you to do at the start of the school year!  How will you function without the latest iPhone, backpack, fall fashions, new car to cart the family around? I once read a quote from the founder of a legendary department store…