Young Adults

For many young adults starting life with mountains of student debt, owing a debt of gratitude can be the straw that breaks the camels back. Can you remember feeling gratitude as a young adult? Maybe you were having the time of your life at a concert. Perhaps you were taking your first solo road trip […]

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Mentoring Emerging Adults with Mindfulness

by Donna Torney on October 4, 2017 · 0 comments

What is an emerging adult?  Most adult development experts agree that emerging adulthood is the life period between the late teen years and the early thirties.  Undoubtedly, some of us reach the stage of “established adulthood” much sooner.  But the current cohort of young adults- those brave souls on the frontier of the digital age – […]

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Joy is sustainable happiness

by Donna Torney on March 29, 2017 · 0 comments

Science tells us that practicing gratitude has many health benefits, like feeling less lonely and building a stronger immune system.  So why is it sometimes difficult for us to feel grateful?  Why do we sometimes have a hard time saying thank you, when one of the byproducts of gratitude is joy, a positive emotion that […]

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We love the idea of traveling for months (even years) on end.  What we don’t love as much though, is the craziness and imbalance that often accompany solo traveling, like exhaustion, and feeling homesick. You’re sitting in a beautiful city, a thousand miles away from home, and you’re second-guessing why you started this whole game […]

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What’s the Difference Between Ease and Easy?

by Donna Torney on February 8, 2017 · 0 comments

What comes to mind when you hear the word easy?  maybe a single-digit math problem, or a six-piece puzzle?  Perhaps a recipe with four ingredients. When it comes to the word ease, however, it’s not so simple to pull up a visual.  Ease is more of a feeling, more of a state of mind than […]

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When you next find yourself among humans…..

by Donna Torney on January 17, 2017 · 1 comment

“Comparison is the thief of joy” – Theodore Roosevelt Comparing situation A with situation B is a big part of how we make it through the day. Overuse of this often unconscious process, however, can feed anxiety and feelings of being “less than” or “better than” that lead to separation, isolation, and in worst cases, to […]

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Make Napping the New Black

by Donna Torney on January 13, 2017 · 0 comments

The other day I mentioned that I felt guilty after taking a nap.  Luckily I have some kind friends who answered with loving responses, encouraging me to rest.  If only our culture would do the same.  If only we were allowed, like bears, to turn off our metabolism, tuck in the kids, and wake up […]

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Be Like Fred

by Donna Torney on December 2, 2016 · 0 comments

In Dickens’ timeless Christmas Carol we meet Ebenezer Scrooge, a joyless bachelor who just can’t seem to muster one drop of generosity for any being on earth, not even his amiable nephew, Fred.  In spite of Ebenezer’s outright hostile response to his nephew’s invitation to Christmas dinner, Fred remains steadfast in his kindness toward his uncle. Let’s all try to […]

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Plan.  Come back to now.  Plan.  Come back to now. focus on something pleasant.  One small, likable thing, Before you once again plan, and again come back to now. Why bother coming back to now?  Now, full of imperfection, distraction, uncertainty, worry? Because now is the only place to heal.  The only place. Plan, remember, […]

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Let things be unfinished.  Stop folding the laundry and go to bed.  Leave the dishes and take a walk with a friend. One of the central tenets of the Japanese art of Wabi Sabi is that nothing is ever finished.    Think about this idea for a second or two….Isn’t that freeing?  It is a […]

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