Young Adults

Make Napping the New Black

by Donna Torney on January 13, 2017 · 0 comments

The other day I mentioned that I felt guilty after taking a nap.  Luckily I have some kind friends who answered with loving responses, encouraging me to rest.  If only our culture would do the same.  If only we were allowed, like bears, to turn off our metabolism, tuck in the kids, and wake up […]

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Be Like Fred

by Donna Torney on December 2, 2016 · 0 comments

In Dickens’ timeless Christmas Carol we meet Ebenezer Scrooge, a joyless bachelor who just can’t seem to muster one drop of generosity for any being on earth, not even his amiable nephew, Fred.  In spite of Ebenezer’s outright hostile response to his nephew’s invitation to Christmas dinner, Fred remains steadfast in his kindness toward his uncle. Let’s all try to […]

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Plan.  Come back to now.  Plan.  Come back to now. focus on something pleasant.  One small, likable thing, Before you once again plan, and again come back to now. Why bother coming back to now?  Now, full of imperfection, distraction, uncertainty, worry? Because now is the only place to heal.  The only place. Plan, remember, […]

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Let things be unfinished.  Stop folding the laundry and go to bed.  Leave the dishes and take a walk with a friend. One of the central tenets of the Japanese art of Wabi Sabi is that nothing is ever finished.    Think about this idea for a second or two….Isn’t that freeing?  It is a […]

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Gentle Fall Transition: Day Eight – Change your mind

by Donna Torney on September 14, 2016 · 0 comments

You have the right to change your mind. Summer is about to end.  Schedules are filling up.  Did you over-commit yourself?  Did you sign up for a class you don’t like?  Join a committee that is cutting into family time?  Say yes to a second date you aren’t sure about?  You have the right to […]

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How much to pack into the stream of life?

by Donna Torney on September 7, 2016 · 0 comments

Dan Siegal talks about the “river of wellness.”  On one bank we have rigidity.  This is behavior that is inflexible, guarded, unforgiving.  On the other bank we have It’s hard to swim in the middle of the river if we try to pack too much into the stream of life.  Too much activity can cause […]

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The good and bad of journaling

by Donna Torney on June 1, 2016 · 1 comment

Is Journaling a mindful activity or is it just a way to strengthen bad thought patterns and hang on to bad feelings? Recently I went through some old journals I’ve been keeping for writing ideas.  I was struck by some of my repetitive “story lines.”   Frankly I became bored very quickly with these old […]

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FOMO – and other ways of feeling left behind

by Donna Torney on April 6, 2016 · 0 comments

If you are feeling disappointed, maybe even envious, because of a “missed” opportunity, it is a good time to apply mindfulness.  Here are three mindfulness tips that can help you feel like you are in the right place at the right time. Still feeling left behind? Check out these posts on disappointment, and rejection. Print […]

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Rick Hanson on Letting Go

by Donna Torney on March 30, 2016 · 0 comments

The practices — simple actions inside your mind — light up neural networks of deep well-being and resilience. And because “neurons that fire together, wire together,” each time you do a practice, it strengthens key neural circuits like building a muscle in the gym. Each practice is grounded in modern neuroscience, positive psychology, Rick’s background […]

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Rick Hanson on Taking More Breaks

by Donna Torney on March 26, 2016 · 0 comments

Methods for shifting gears and taking pause to improve well-being, strengthen relationships and encourage peace of mind.

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