40 Days of Letting Go: Day 14 ~ Let go of planning

A health crisis, a job loss, a rejection letter….rejected love.  We can tantrum, “it’s not fair”… “I don’t want to relocate!”….. “I can’t accept that it’s over!”……

The ideas of equanimity and acceptance are central to mindfulness meditation, and can help us welcome life’s detours.

“Consider that not getting what you want can be a wonderful stroke of luck” – The Dalai Lama

Here’s today’s letting go exercise:  The gift of plan B

1.  When something unexpectedly unpleasant or unwanted comes up, watch your physical reaction.  Is there a tightening in your stomach or shoulders?  Are your hands clenched?  Especially watch what the breath is doing.  Take deep even breaths.

2.  Ask the magic question, “what is the best thing to do in this moment?” and  follow-up questions, “how can I use this situation to show compassion?”  What am I resisting? What is my fear? Is my resistance helping or making the situation more painful?

3. What is the gift of plan B?  Look for the gift in the situation.  There is always a gift in plan B.  Think of  time in the past when getting what you wanted did not turn out to be all that great, and a time when plans feel through and something unexpectedly beneficial happened.  The Dalai Lama has been quoted as saying “Remember that not getting what you want can be a wonderful stroke of luck.”

We wish you twenty minutes of mindfulness every day!

Taking plan B can be especially difficult for teens and young adults.  Check out our free worksheet on mindfulness for teens, mindfulness for college freshman, and mindfulness for a broken heart.

Parents can benefit from our worksheets that support mindful parenting.


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